20 Things I’ve Learned Before Turning 20

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  1. Don’t be that person who’s interested in everything but commits to nothing.
  2. Making food for someone is a love language.
  3. There is only one way to avoid negative opinions: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. Who wants to live like that?
  4. It’s OK to be clumsy, nervous, and clueless. The important thing is you show up anyway. Grab opportunities when they come.
  5. Don’t be afraid to do things alone. Or to be alone.
  6. Don’t make it worse by sitting too long in the bad — learn to dance while you cry.
  7. Resting is productive. Do it often and do it well.
  8. Sometimes you have to give yourself a pat on the back. Even if you have already received praises from others. Let yourself know that you see you.
  9. Don’t underestimate the value of having something just for you. Not to share, not to monetise, or to become an expert in.
  10. Don’t focus on the past. Focus on now and the possibilities that the future holds.
  11. It’s OK to have a gentle heart. It is better to do things with your whole heart than to never experience the beauty of feeling anything at all.
  12. Don’t get addicted to distraction. Sometimes having too much time and too many choices is the reason for inaction.
  13. Do something. I know it’s easier to not choose, to not do, and avoid failure. But don’t overthink. Or you’ll find yourself thinking your way through life which is unusually tempting.
  14. True confidence doesn’t come from inside you (stop searching) it comes from practice. Doing something over and over again.
  15. Have one goal per year. You’ll look back and realise that by focusing on one goal, you were actually moving forward.
  16. You can’t control what other people do or say but you can control how you let it affect you.
  17. It’s OK to ask for help. Allow people to love you, don’t hold back.
  18. You don’t need to fix other people’s problems. It’s not your job. Take that pressure off yourself. You can just be there for them.
  19. You’ll find friends in the most unlikely places and because you never expected to be so close to them, you get to see them as they are and still choose to be their friend.
  20. Appreciate people when they are there, give credit where it is due and learn from people. Always put yourself in a position to learn.




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